The 2 main REASONS, NOT to homeschool your child #Dispatches #SkippingSchool
We don’t homeschool our children, or at least we don’t homeschool or children – yet!
We don’t do telly, but I see from my social media that there has been a big whoa recently over Channel 4’s Dispatches ‘exposé’ on the rise of parents deciding to homeschool their children. Recently I have been contemplating what’s behind the rise and whether it really is a decision that parents are making or if it is a necessity because our education system in the UK is failing some of our young people?
Personally, I struggled with school. It wasn’t so much for me the daily bullying and taunts because of my weight or the fact that I had really bad psoriasis. This was horrid, but it was actually the sense of being ‘left behind’.
Here are the 2 common reasons that critics to homeschooling bring to the debate.
Homeschooled children do not Socialise as much as Schooled Children.
This is usually the most common argument from opponents to children being educated at home. And to be fair, it is probably a fair statement if their’s are the sort of children who come home of an evening and hop in front of a screen and ‘tune out’ for the rest of the day.
In our research as to whether homeschooling would have been right for our children, I have met a few homeschool families and have to say that this would be quite low down on my radar when it came to potential issues.
It is fantastic for children to socialise with people their own age, but it’s also important that the socialise with many age groups and with people with many different backgrounds. The families I have seen or read about do exactly this. A great many of them meet several times a week with groups of other homeschooled children to play in the park, visit museums or for a bite to eat in a local cafe.
I would go on to say that it is possible that these children are better socialised than school children who see the same faces day in day out.
Of course the other benefit, they won’t be exposed to the abuse of bullying as much which our educational system has never seemed to have even come close to eradicating.
Homeschooled children won’t pass their exams and will have a poorer education
I was left behind by my teachers. I know what its like first hand to be a number – a number in a system that is not worth investing in and who is left behind in favour of the easier to teach students.
Luckily, my step up came when my dad found a local even tutor for me. This helped me no end and after a while I started to excel. It was a big strain on me though – I’d have to have a full day at school and then off to the tutor in the evening for yet more work. My schools late of enthusiasm in me, put a great burden on my young shoulders.
Unfortunately, the education system is about targets – its a business. The old saying that ‘there is no such thing as a bad student, just a bad teacher’ went out the window a long time ago. Time and energy go into those that will succeed and all too often the struggling children get little or often no extra support. With all the cuts, and allowing schools to be run as businesses, I can understand, but not condone, why this might happen.
One homeschooled young person who I have met recently though, someone who was struggling at school is now thriving in the homeschooled environment. This seems to back up this article about homeschooled children in the USA doing better than their schooled counterparts.
I would also imagine that most homeschooled children are much more
Abuse and neglect
Apparently the C4 Dispatches show mentioned abuse and neglect.
For nearly all of us parents, the innate determination is to protect our children at all costs. But yes there are bad people in most groups. That doesn’t make all parents neglectful, abusive and uncaring. On the other side, I can remember teachers over the years getting prosecuted for some very heinous crimes indeed – but again we shouldn’t tar them all with the same brush as most if them are fantastic and passionate about what they do.
The system on the other hand is different.
If you have a system where bullying is endemic, where children are routinely educationally neglected and left behind, where, in some areas, teachers have lost so much control that children carrying knives to school
Are parents actually ‘deciding’ to homeschool their children or are they doing it because of their innate responsibility to do right by their child?
I would go as far as saying that until we have full protective anti-bullying legislation, the education system in the UK will, unfortunately, be a place where abuse and neglect
Its an extremely interesting debate, and one that we are thinking of personally as we think about whether homeschooling would be a better option for our children.
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